Hello,

I am very sorry for the late reply, I have had of work lately.

Thanks to both of you for your replies !!

Anita,

“- yes, it makes sense that you’ll need 1-on-1 time with her before meeting her boyfriend and his friends.”

Thank you, it feels validating to read this.

“it will be interesting how she will respond, if it’d be one of the possibilities I mentioned or something that didn’t occur to me (or to you?)”

Yes, definitely. I admit I haven’t sent the text yet because it makes me nervous and I want to wait for the right time, meaning a time where I can allow myself to be sad/disappointed.

There’s something that I haven’t mentioned to both of you but that I think is very important : in February, when I saw her after 6 weeks, I told her that I was scared that everyone would stop prioritizing our friendship once they entered in a relationship, and that I was worried to end up alone as all my friend would pair up (that’s an issue I no longer have, because I have worked on it but it’s another topic 🙂 ).

It was one of the last time that I was emotionally vulnerable with her.

At the time, she assured me that she highly valued friendship and that platonic relationships were equally as important as romantic ones to her.

Needless to say, her actions clearly didn’t match her words and our friendship never improved after that.

It makes me wonder if that should make me reconsider sending her a text, as I somehow expressed how I felt in February, even if it was in a subtle hint ?

“- peace of mind is so very important. More important than any friendship.”

Truly !