Hi Lulu

You agree that you would be worried if your daughter didn’t eat for a couple of days. This isn’t just a couple of days. You are minimising what you are doing in your mind. This is your long term chosen dieting method. The concern that your mother has for you is serious and it is for your health.

People don’t need to eat every day. They can not eat anything for about a month and then they die. By only eating one meal every other day, you are only eating a tiny fraction of the amount you are supposed to be consuming for good health. You are already choosing not to eat 50% of the time, then on the days that you are eating your calorie intake is still below the recommended daily intake. My guess from what you’ve said is that you are eating overall only 25% of the calories that you are supposed to be. Your mother is worried for you, for a very good reason.

The reason that people can not eat for a period of time is that the body consumes itself. Where do you think nutrients such as calcium come from? Your heart, muscles and nerves need calcium every day to function properly. Where do you think it is coming from if not from your diet where you only eat 25% of your calories. Calcium not derived from diet is taken from your bones and your teeth. If this fasting dieting method continues, your bones and teeth will weaken. These effects aren’t immediately noticeable. But can lead to serious health problems in the future such as osteoporosis which means that your bones are more likely to break.

All of the things I’ve told you are facts. Your mother is worried based on facts. You don’t understand the depth of the decision you are making because you are not educated enough about health. I’m sorry if this is hard to hear, it is just the truth. This dieting method leaves you only 25% of the recommended intake of calories away from death. What do you think that is doing to your health? The truth is that you are simply eating enough to not immediately die.

Did you know that binge eating is an eating disorder? You already have an eating disorder. This is another reason why your mother is scared. Being overweight is unhealthy. But anorexia kills people much more quickly than being overweight does. The risk of you developing anorexia is very high because you already have an eating disorder.

My recommendation is that you should listen to your mother. Put your ego to one side. Try to learn about health from your mother. She seems like she knows a lot about it.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏