Hi JC

I’m trying to understand the context of the situation. So the difficulty that your oldest dealt with was living with an abusive partner which you recommended? Or did other difficulties occur too?

I feel like obviously recommending that she lives with an abusive partner is wrong. But I can understand your concern for her finishing her course.

It was a good thing that you apologised.

I have had a baby recently. I can only imagine how difficult it is for her as a single mother. I would imagine that she is struggling with it and even struggling with her mental health.

You have done all you can. You are being the rational person here. Offering help of all sorts, it is up to her whether she wants to suffer or take it.

I don’t know the extent of what happened between you both over the years. It certainly is difficult dealing with generational trauma. The hope is that she will reflect on her own difficulties with her child. Her own behaviour will shape this child. I hope that she finds it in her heart to give you a chance when she realises how hard things are as a parent.

Just give her some time. She may not be so stubborn forever. Try not to blame yourself. For all of the difficulties that have occurred, you apologized, you care and you made an effort to help. That is more than some people. Perhaps try contacting her to check in regularly? Since she was worried about you not caring? Consistency is key.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏