This thread posted so many years ago has been a buoy in the storm for me. While most woman have written about their various reasons for breaking up and then immensely regretting it, some have also in their regret wished they could go back in time and save a very healthy stable relationship. I went through all 30 responses because I am sadly on the other side of the line. I currently have a very loving relationship of almost 3 years (our 3rd anniversary is in a month) however I have been feeling unsure of the relationship, which is weird as we have never had a fight, we agree on everything, we communicate perfectly as I love over communicating and he has given me the world. I am a catholic and my parents would never agree to a non catholic marriage, so he is making the effort to learn about and convert to my religion, he has always had chronic depression but wants to pull himself out of it by agreeing to therapy for me, he gives me all the space in the world, he never holds me back and in these past three years I have felt safe and secure with him (unlike my previous toxic relationships) which has given me room to grow and develop as an individual. He is the gentlest and kindest soul and will love me till the day I die maybe even after (and I have never been more sure of his love for me) I don’t think I look amazing but in his eyes I always feel beautiful loved and respected. Which is why I am kicking myself for feeling less love than he has for me. My first therapist (many years before meeting him) told me that one day I will know when I’ve found the right guy because he will be what you need (loving, kind unconditional love) and not what you want(toxic thrilling roller coaster love) my second therapist thinks im still chasing that toxic flame and right now I just feel confused and lost. So far I have never regretted anything in my 29years of existence but today I wonder if I am about to make the biggest mistake of my life? If you had a chance to go back again and change things would you really do it?

Thank you for reading this far