Thanks Danger. I did try to change the thinking a bit and felt a tiny bit good. There are 3 stages in which I usually am (1) Free from the mental burden (2) about to take up the burden and (3) caught with the burden. Many a times, the victim mentality as described takes over and I slip from (1) to (2) to (3) and once in stage (3), it requires a lot of effort and more importantly time to get out of the the stage. I do try to stop myself but sometimes the mind says ‘you did make the mistake’ and so it spirals down with the justification of the mistake as a proof that that is how things should be.