Hello,

It sounds like you are where I found myself not too long ago. My now ex, who I was completely and utterly in love with, admitted to having cheated on me for months with a coworker of his. It was heart breaking for both of us. He was still in love with me and couldn’t explain how he let it happen. I was devastated. I went into a depression and stayed with him for another three years. Some days were good and I thought we would be able to get past it. I tried to let go of the hurt and sadness, but I found I just became more depressed. I started looking for reasons to push him away. Feeling stuck can be very hard. There’s always an excuse to let yourself stay in an unhappy situation. I would suggest taking some time to meditate on what would really make you happy in your life. For me it took taking a spontaneous trip to Costa Rica to see my life clearly and realize the life I had been missing out on. It can be hard to make that decision, but there does need to be a line in the sand. One side is moving on and completely letting go of the hurt and pain to commit yourself to the relationship. The other (the scarier option) is a taking a leap in a new direction, one where you let go of your fears and decide how your life will go forth. If you take the second option, as I did my best advice is always be positive. I’m happier then I have ever been in my life. You have the choice to be happy. It’s time to make a difficult decision. I promise you that can be happy, but only you can make it happen. I wish you only love and happiness in whatever decision you make.