Hey Tim,

Your forum stuck a chord with me as I myself have dealt with a similar thing, but me being the girl in that situation – and I hope my response isn’t too harsh but it’s only my thoughts 🙂 there is nothing more soul destroying than someone who can’t decide what they want, or if they want to be with you, when you’ve given them no reason to think these things. Especially when you’ve described her as bright, ambitious, funny, gorgeous.. you get along well and you enjoy each others company…

I believe you might be putting too much pressure on yourself (and maybe Lou) to find this perfect relationship with ‘the one’ there is not one perfect person that’s going to fore fill all of your needs, that fore-fillment comes from within, from you. If there are doubts, listen to them, it’s a human quality that shouldn’t go unheard. If you feel like that, you feel like that for a reason. Brushing these doubts under the carpet when you think you want to be with her and she loves you for who you are, is not only a little selfish and not fair on Lou, but these doubts and issues from within will only resurface in time and you’ll feel exactly the same as you have previously.
You say you can’t see a future with her, which you’re questioning yourself for, why can’t I see a future with this incredible and amazing person, who loves me? Honestly, forget how you feel and ask yourself what you want, it is unfair to hold onto her when you can’t make a decision. It only holds her back from the path that was set for her.
Take some time to concentrate on you and really discover what you want and what you’re looking for.
I hope this helps in some way, and I hope you find what you’re looking for Tim.