What do you do that is common to your behavior no matter who you are with? That may be a place to start. Being different in different groups or setting s is not necessarily all that bad. Finding our own themes helps us to understand and accept who we are. Plus life experiences change us. I am vastly changed from who I was 20 and 30 years ago. I advise finding what is “yours” or what is “you” at the core then accepting that which you love about yourself while changing that what you dislike. Best of luck