Cameron,

That sounds like bubkiss to me, my heart and mind also rejected it. Relationships like that happen, but to call that “soul mate” sounds like someone remains bitter over a deep connection that went south. Don’t be afraid of words, just look. What do you see?

If spiritual development is a big thing for you, there’s good reason to share it. Guys will either like you or not, being spiritual isn’t a turn off to any of my male friends at least. If you had “I want to have lots and lots of babies”, perhaps a little rethinking might be involved. 🙂 Perhaps you’re looking in the wrong spot? Often, its easiest to find compatible people by going out and doing what we love to do. That’s where they’ll be, doing what they love to do. Or, you’ll have so much fun doing it that you’ll take some of that pressure off your shoulders.

For me, I’ve never had good luck with love when seeking it. Rather, it has always grown for me (including with my wife) when I was just out playing, happy, sharing the joy grown on the cushion.

With warmth,
Matt