Hi Leah.. This is a perennial problem for people isn’t it!? That’s perhaps your key there. Many people feel like this – probably more than you feel there are, and certainly more than you can see on the outside from your “inside”. I’ve struggled with this same feeling you’re troubled with for the longest time, but I’ll let you into a secret about how to break that cycle. Look inwards. Look at the little things you like and enjoy in life, beyond relationships – a nice bite to eat, a good film, book, a visit to a museum.. I know you’ve maybe done some or all these before as acts of distraction and felt it’s not really worked, but have you been truly present in your mind whilst doing “it”, or have you been worrying about the other stuff too much to really experience the moment?

There is a hell of a lot of energy expounded in the world, trying to shape us into being the good little worker ants that we should be – distracted by worries about whether we’re enjoying enough sport, as rich, good looking and/or successful as all the the rich and famous people we ought to be obsessing over. I’m not assuming you’re so similarly compelled by these attributes of life, but this is merely to illustrate the distractions which we have to tolerate, and the mindfulness with which we have to treat such psychological bombardment. I mean it’s genuinely hard enough to cope with the little things that get under our skin and niggle at us without being told we aren’t good enough by the corporate machinations too, yes? So, the solution is to just let it all go.. Don’t worry about what is happening with other people – their lives may not be the bed of roses they appear to be. You know, a surprising number of those people you see about you are probably worrying that they’re in the wrong relationship, not really feeling that which they appear to be, maybe even struggling to find the words to tell their perfect looking other half that they want to call it a day!? Better to not worry about them and focus on the things which make you happy – by that I mean your innate talents. What and who are you? If you could do or be anything (and that’s not limited to pure ambition), what would you become? Chances are there is more than one string to your bow, so try turning your hand to a few of those things, as you feel. I’m creative, so I bounce between writing, drawing, photography and making music. I too am single and wouldn’t “kick love out of bed” so to speak (and nearly 43 to boot!), but when you plunge your soul into the things that make you feel good, trust me when I say that leaves little room in your heart and mind for the brooding resentment which creeps in when you aren’t being mindful. If it does slip into your mind again (and it will) take the time to step back and refocus your reasoning. Focus on your strengths and trust that this will buoy you enough to feel better about life around you. See the smallest beauty in things around you.. All of this will change how you react inside and by virtue of that how you appear to others. Best of luck with things! Let me know how it goes!? *^^*