There are no fairy-tales- having a relationship doesnt mean your life or their life is perfect. The more you focus on what you dont have and how they are different from you, the worse will be the jealousy. And trust me, having a boyfriend wont be all roses despite what the movies tell you and what your friends seem to tell you. After the first blush of being enamored with eachother, you start seeing eachother for what you really are – flawed but so wonderful. Thats why love is a choice – its not perfect and no relationship is.

Besides, i think its cool that you’re the single one in your group – your perspective would be different from your other friends. You wouldnt have to bother about the coochie-coochikoo nonsense and you’re a free bird with many options to pick 😛 it aint all that bad actually and who knows? you can flirt all you want and not bother.

Tell your female friends wistfully someday that you want to know what its like to be with someone. Let them know you feel scared sometimes..you like being single but you would like to know what it feels to be with someone. there is nothing wrong with telling your close friends. I speak from the point of view of someone who has been in both sides of this boat – none of the situations are easy. There is no perfect situation but be honest about your needs.

Most importantly, ask yourself why you want a relationship – intimacy, experience, what is your reason? i know it isnt much of a solution but trust me, you’ll be alright. What kind of basic qualities do you want in a man?

Some people actually find their sweethearts later – like my present one and i found eachother in the most unexpected way. My last break-up turned me cynical and bitter about love. I felt bad around those gooey couples..Then i met him when i least expected. I didnt have a care in the world as i was convinced i wouldnt fall for this one. Lol – we were best friends for a few months and i dunno, something happened.

He is in his mid-twenties and i am his first relationship. Does that mean something is wrong with him because he got a romantic partner so late? Nope 🙂 Its been almost a year with him and i am happy – not in that silly teenager, head-over-heels way anymore. Oh that phase was for 2 months – now its more of a warm, content love. Experience helps but there are some basic principles – trust, responsibility and commitment which any serious relationship needs. He tells me that i may be his first gf but its special for him. Isnt that what really matters?

What would you want? Quantity or quality? Who knows, maybe your story will be something unexpected and you will find someone incredibly special? Life has a funny way of falling into place. Love is really unpredictable and happens when you least expect it!