Hi Ruminant,

Thank you for your reply and understanding. No i dont worry or feel sad for him having a past, it is only natural. It is also obvious that he would have treated his ex-es with care. What i feel sad about is about he not sharing this with me, when he knew that for me how important transparency is in relationships. I also had a past, i shared all with him..infact no one else knows so much in details as he knows. I did that BEFORE he took the decision to marry me. It hurts me to see that he has hidden things from me when he claims we are so close and I being his best friend. I wonder why did he choose to do that. 2ndly, on the colleague–the interaction is recent(the girl still works with him) as recent as last week when we went to a weekend trip togethr. he was so caring and concerning and I had thought it came out of him being a nice person. Its only later (post the trip) did I find out about the,. So its so obvious he still holds her dear in his heart and cares for her. I am sorry, but I am disturbed and hurt about the whole thing, and his colleague being now in his Present (though they might not have an active affair) dosent help the situation