Hello Lisa,

Thank you for sharing this common, but crippling problem. I think we’ve all probably been there at one point or another. One part of your original post intrigued me. It was this question you posed yourself; Am I seriously just meant to be a secretary all of my life and live with a mediocre salary??

First, look at yourself in the mirror and answer that question. Yes or no? Then take a look at what you see when you say that. Do you see conviction, fear etc. Depending on your answer and what you see, that will give you an insight into what’s going on at a deeper level. I’m guessing you possibly know this already, but if not, awareness of something deep down is valuable.

Next, think about the question itself. How you see your job, yourself and your salary could be part of the issue. Look at the language you use in everyday life. The words that come out of our mouth are simply a projection of our thoughts, mindset and perception.

Once you are aware of those words, change them. For instance, replace the word ‘but’ with ‘and’. Choose other words you say frequently to yourself and change them with something else. Think about the language you use and why you use it?

I hope these little tips help in some way.

I wish you well and much warmth,

Matt.