Hey @sophiedaphne, it seems that you both have personalities that conflict on a similar issue yet both of you are not entirely willing to work through these. He appears to be someone who is a lot more sensitive to things that you would count as smaller or even trivial. I’m a highly sensitive guy and I can tell you that people like us take ages to fully deal with things, especially those which would affect something as big as confidence to marry someone. We tend to obsess over details and over-analyse situations, which is not always a good trait given other people like you created those situations almost without really meaning to – a knee-jerk response if you will. Whereas we don’t see it like that and though conversation and apologies have taken place, we still keep distant. You appear to be a little different to this and, just going off what you’ve written, you also appear to be the kind of person who can be very emotive. Many of the women I’ve dated have been like this, able to quickly admit a bad situation and openly come to terms with it. It’s such a good thing to bring to a relationship but at the same time, it makes it harder to work things out when in relationships with people like your guy and me etc.

I know it seems shocking to go from suddenly marriage to misinterpretations and fights and now not much talk about it but I think this is a healthy thing to have happened for both of you. It will give you the chance to see that marriage, like anything, has many sides, many needs, and is a constantly changing dynamic of two persons working toward one goal. If you can accept that fights and misunderstandings happen as part of a natural marriage, then you have a very real opportunity to work through them and come out at the end much better off for it.

I hope I haven’t come across presumptuous or self-righteous as I only speak from experience.

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