Good for you Tracey…hoping for the best for you. To answer your question about my situation…the answer is simple. I love him. Finding these things out about him don’t change my love for him over night. Ive been to many therapy sit downs to try and understand this and get out of my head a little. You know…think outside the box as to why this happened. I love him very much and my son does as well. That’s his “daddy”. So it’s not so easy for me to just cut all feelings of and say go to hell. Yes i felt that way at first. Very angry, hurt and most of all confused. But as i let my feelings settle and started to think with a clear head i realized that i would want to work it out and TRY to understand or even to forget. The question does remain as to if he is still doing this. And i can’t give an answer. Because i truly don’t know. Do i think he is? No. I don’t trust him what so ever. Which is not a good thing! I am slowly (and when i say slowly i mean as slow as a snail) trying to rebuild trust in him, baby steps. But i do still get flashbacks. And they are literally flashbacks, like what you see people get in the movies of a horrible accident… My therapist says its shock. I believe her. I just don’t know if i will ever be able to trust him again, or believe in him, or not question him… This is hard for me because if he’s being true and honest and truly trying to work on this relationship, why am i so negative about everything?