Renearmond and Beth,
Thank you for replying. I am really looking for different points of view of my situation. You both make good points that I am totally aware of.

Renearmond, I do see where my husband is not meeting me half way, and it is possible I will have to give up at some point as I cannot fix or change things on my own. The problem I have right now is -I am not ready to quit and he is not ‘not doing anything’. He unfortunately has more demons than I do to tend to and my counselor has explained that he can only handle one at a time. yes, he’s doing more talking than doing currently. And I struggle with patience. He is still committed to the marriage as far as other women are concerned. We are not dating or seeking dating other people. Thank you for your point, I do know I need to be weary and not be naïve.

Beth, our counselor has actually said those words to my husband in counseling. He is confused by it because he blames every other reason why he’s not doing what he says, but she insists that somewhere deep down he just doesn’t want to. It does bother him to hear that, and he argues it (to no avail). Part of the problem is my husband was raised to believe words can correct your actions – even if you keep making the same action…. I truly believe some part of him doesn’t see how his actions speak louder than words. I am hoping he can learn. He seems willing to listen so time will tell.

Thanks, Tina