Hey little dreamy,

Can i be a bit frank with you? Was this guy your first relationship virtually or your first real life one? It seems that you have mistaken a sexual flirtation and infatuation for love. An endless energy has been expended on your part for someone you have never met and has not even made the slightest real step to be with you. Why all this trouble? And now that its finally over and you are picking up the pieces that this person on the internet left for you (no more deep talks on phone, sex talks, distractions, flirting), the vulnerabilities of a real life relationship are making you question the very existence of love.

Lets be fair – Not every guy is an asshole and you have to stop being so shit scared about it. If you want to receive love, you have to learn to live with the fear of getting hurt too. That is not easy when you have already been hurt but believe me, just be careful this time. He was having fun with you and didnt have the balls to take you seriously. But tell me something very practically, what were you expecting from a 21 year old dude on the internet? Life-long love and commitment, till death do us apart? Yeah you have been silly and i am not going to beat around the bush about.

Just dont stop living because of the mistake you made with this guy. Get over it. Only you can do. I was with someone for 5.5 years and he broke my heart to shreds – it wasnt online but it was devastating. Eventually i did come across my current bf through an online route (not a dating website though, funny story) and i will tell you what – we met after that soon to confirm if this was indeed real and we will move to the same city soon so that we can know each other even more closely. Its been almost a year and he has stuck with me, been responsible. Every guy isnt the same and stories are different. After the last one ended so badly, i lost hope but i found it again in the most unexpected place.

When a guy really wants to make something work, he will make it happen. That is what i learned from the love of my life right now. All is not lost but you need to pick yourself up and move on – the best relationships begin with friendship.

Think about it 🙂

Regards,
Moon