Caring guy,

Time to woo! Come to her as a stranger, appreciative, genuine. Instead of asking “what should I do to win this woman”, ask yourself “what can I do to help her world sparkle?” Maybe flowers, a card, a night out dancing. Help her find her fun, her inner jokester, her playful side, her princess. Chances are she’s scared, not sure if your connection remains warm. Like taking her to a buffet, showing her that you support whatever she wants to have, don’t wish to order her meal for her. Free, loved. You can hold this as a general plan, to prepare for the dance.

While there, just be heartfelt, open. Have some different ideas of what you might like, offer them up, ask her what she wants, any? All? Something different? Just be there, relax, enjoy, play. Its just a dance in the moonlight, after all.

To bolster your inner light, consider some metta meditation. As you sit and intentionally wish for happiness for her, yourself, others, you’ll be less needy, more abundant. Less “what does our future hold, please love me”, more “where do you wish to go, dear queen?” Content that the future is unwritten, knowing what you’d like to see, but open to what others need to be happy, too. Consider “Sharon Salzburg guided metta meditation” on YouTube, if interested. Said differently, working on yourself, being prepared to dance, is about self nurturing. Caring for yourself, eating well, following your heart, cleaning your messes, exercising, helps you remain confident that you’re the prince you are, and then, the song to sing to your princess flows easily, naturally.

With warmth,
Matt