Lindsay,

You’re already missing out on “The One”. Lindsay’s it! Said differently, Pete and Shane are helping you see what you like/dislike in a relationship, what attracts you, what you need to feel safe, what you want home to be like. That feeling of home is “the one” we look for, and is something that blossoms inside us. A romantic partner can help it shine, but its in us, is us. A few things came to heart as I read your words.

I’m with inky on this one… set down Pete and Shane, use this conflict to help you figure out what kind of relationship you want, what kind of life you want to have, what you want to see, write them down. Rest with them, add some, scribble some out, refine, examine. If Pete or Shane see similar things, want similar things, and begin to help those mutual desires come true, the repulsion (with Pete) or the need for space (with Shane) will naturally erode. More likely, its time to close both those doors, start fresh. Look around at your life, the earth, the sky, and sing to your dreams, follow them. That’s where you’ll find your prince, singing his song, too… and it’ll be in harmony with your own. A challenging but delightful counterpoint.

With warmth,
Matt