Inky,

Goosebumps, well said! Reads like a poem to me. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt

Seraph,

Its clear how much you want her to choose you, trust that. Perhaps you’re not on the same page, such as her feelings for you are not what you think they are, but if they are, you’re in luck! She may need time to grow the courage, but you should definitely tell her your desires. Not “you must do such”, rather “my heartfelt wish, my dream is such”. Then, stay open to what she wants, listen, respond.

Consider that she can’t avoid hurting him, because she has already found you. If she returns what you have for her, then she can have a clean break, let go. Slow, steady, like pulling off a band-aid. Even though it stings, keep going, its just a moment in time, breathe. Be free.

Also, if and when she does decide to break it off, don’t let her grief make you jealous (or wavering in her desire). It doesn’t mean the click you two share is being threatened, it only means she has some stuff to process. She may need time alone, or especially tender openness if you’re with her. Hug that heart, help her know she made a good choice, is well loved, thoughts of ex-boyfriend, confusion, and all. Make that space in your heart for all of her, she deserves it!

With warmth,
Matt