What you both said!

Ruminant, I genuinely appreciate your knowledge of the situation and you are right. Most of these walls that have been put up stem from childhood memories of conflict, abandonment, and sometimes worse. I have gotten to the point where my energies have been tapped, I needed some affirmation and affection and it was not available. I have lost patience and taken away that security that I would be with her forever and that is when the dragon came out. So yes, there are two truth’s here and my lack of strength, patience, and most importantly understanding are very much adding to this.

Matt, what a great illustration. That is exactly how it feels. I know there is a beatiful, vulnerable person in there that is very guarded and the closer I’ve gotten over the years, the bigger the moats and defenses have seemed. Also, what you have said. It is quite the quest. It has been tiring and I guess if she will come to the table with me then the answer will be clear.

Thank you both