Hi Jo,
I challenge you to re-examine your statement. Do you really miss him or do you miss the idea of what he represents? He most likely represents something about yourself that you feel is missing. I encourage you to spend this time to really discover what you want in a relationship with someone else, as well as with yourself. I’ll also bet you don’t miss being verbally abused by him. It is simply unacceptable for someone to be abusive to you. Acknowledge this as a universal truth. Practice telling yourself this and removing emotions from thoughts. It will take time but practice sitting in silence every day watching those thoughts pass you by. You might be surprised by how much power you have. Take care of yourself, ok?