Brian,

Consider that your brother is jealous and uncomfortable when you’re shining more brightly than he is (in his perceptions). Like, through your gentle and righteous seeking, you come across a delicious pie, try to share it with loved ones. Then his frown enters: “I bring the pie here, yours tastes like shit” says his ego, trying to push you to stop being brilliant. You could Google “projection changing minds” for a brief but pointed explanation for what is probably happening. Your brother probably dislikes the way he himself tries to be a hipster to fit in(or whatever social group he’s trying to be a part of).

To stop his pressure in its tracks, consider standing up to him, throwing your arms around him, and telling him you love him even when he pokes at you in such ways. In your heart at least, if he’s too thorny to hug in reality. Then, move on, just keep singing your song, seeking and finding answers, sharing, hugging. Why let his discomfort become sticky? Its not yours.

You find Buddhism engaging? That’s awesome!

With warmth,
Matt