Hi Mark
Yes I too am going through something similar. My ex ended our relationship a long time ago and I still hurt and feel anxiety from it. Just like you I tried to be nice and he only had mean things to say and was also defensive when I later brought it Up. I also tried to wish him the best and let him know I truly hope he finds happiness but the conversation didn’t go as planned. I even tried to start a new relationship but it didn’t work out because I am not healed from the last one. I think it’s normal for us to still feel some “grieving pains”.You had a lot of memories with your ex and not everyone can just move on to the next person like some people can. Allow yourself as much time as you need to get stronger and on the days I catch myself thinking of my ex too much or feeling bad and thinking about the “what if’s” I keep myself REALLY busy. Gym, go out with friends,organize my whole entire closet. ANYTHING HELPS. I think it’s just hard for you because during your loss you turned to her and now with your father’s health it has caused that feeling of wanting someone to turn to again so your ex pops up in your head and that’s ok. I’m sorry she said those unnecessary rude comments to you and you did not deserve it. I’m sorry she did not apologize for those words and behaved so cold but it’s all over now and in the past. That initial breakup feeling is already over and that’s the hardest part. Now all you can do is progress a little more every day. We are doing it together! 🙂