Let me clarify… the fact that he is currently looking at incest porn by itself, does not indicate alone that your kids are in harms way. It is the whole picture. He may just be going off on that tangent at the moment. Next week it could be pee videos.

Porn is desensitizing. He has to look at increasing levels of deviance to get the same level of arousal.

The reason your kids are potentially in danger is the degree of pain that your husband is in. Deviance is a very selfish place. He isn’t thinking about you, your kids, or the consequences of his actions right now. He is only thinking of his next “fix”.

And you can not make him whole. Only he can fix himself, and he has to understand everything he has at risk of losing to do that.