Hi Sassypants,
I’m sorry your relationship is not going to plan.
You have touched on one of my pet issues…NEEDS.
I don’t think it’s very empowering to have needs. A need implies that, without it, we’ll die. We need food, water and shelter.
The word need also instils in us a feeling of loss or missing out…if we don’t get it.
I would instead say that I have WANTS or PREFERENCES.
For example, I would like or prefer a relationship where we can go out when we want and spend time together privately. However, if that doesn’t happen, I will still cope…as there are other parts of the relationship that outweigh these inconveniences.
If, on the other hand, you don’t think you can cope without those “wants”…then it might be time to move on.