Amok, thank you for blaming the OP. Yes, it must be all her fault. REALLY?

So therefore it must have been my fault, too.

Yeah, I picked him. That WAS my fault.

While, for many men, “a little” porn might be mostly harmless, here are some red flag alerts she made in her brief note:

~ home alone with his daughters.

~ type and frequency.

~ on his phone.

~ fear he has other secrets.

~ her own hurt.

These are all indications that there is a larger problem than an occasional look at porn. I have looked at porn and enjoyed it. But if my partner said he was uncomfortable with it, it would not be an issue. I would surely not be hiding in a bathroom, to look at it. That is the difference. Also, while looking at porn, I always have in the back of mind a running dialogue about the source of the porn. If the woman posts pictures of herself, it is a lot different than if someone exploited her in the capturing of the image or video.

Women tend to be right in their fears concerning men. If she is alarmed enough to post, more than likely she is correct.

But reading your post, you won’t even be able to take this in…

because in your reality, it is the woman’s fault if the man is not satisfied.

Melissa, don’t let this kind of crap question your belief of what the situation is in your home. I am sorry for your situation, the pain you must be feeling, and the fact that others can come on here and diminish you or your feelings.

Please give us an update if you are willing…