Hi Jessa,

I just want to say that it’s been a long time since my marriage ended. Over 3 years now. I just haven’t started to date until recently. I did take counseling earlier on, after it happened, and it did help. I have been a little more active with things I enjoy doing for quite some time and I have been getting together with friends on a more regular basis.

I might talk to a counselor again soon. Just to air things out and see if they notice something about how I am approaching relationships that isn’t helping me. Mostly, I think it is a matter of me enjoying the process of getting to know someone new, and not worrying about if things are going to go somewhere.

Sometimes, it is helpful coming on this forum and release how I am feeling about a subject. A lot of the time, I get some very good insights from people on here.

I’ve learned so much over the past few years since my marriage ended. I know I don’t want to bring what I lived with so long into another relationship. I don’t want to relive the mistakes of my past or be with the same type of woman again.

Eventually, I will get an opportunity to be with someone that will care about me as much as I care about them. For now, I’m not going to worry about it.