Mctmdream: Thank you! It does help knowing that I’m not alone. I used to feel like I was asking too much, but not anymore. If you are hopeless dreamer, than so am I!

Anne: I have heard of that book, thanks for the reminder. I will take a look at it.

Hurley: Thank you so much for sharing your story. I appreciate hearing it from a mans perspective. I’m very sorry that you are going through such pain. My husband is like you too in the sense that he is a hard worker, a care taker, attractive and funny. And that is exactly what we are doing, going through the motions. I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn’t appreciate having a great husband. Unfortunately there is still a void. For me, all it would take is something simple, like a kind word now and then and my heart would soar. I’ve learned that I need to speak my truth and say it with love. I know that I am not responsible for how he chooses to feel about it. I have been open and honest about what I need. I’ve asked if he is happy, or is there something I could do better to improve our relationship and he says no, there’s nothing. It would mean so much if we could converse on a deeper level, however, he gets defensive. Things might change for a little while, but it always goes back to being the same.

I really commend you for looking inward and acknowledging why you became distant were unhappy and for being able to find that silver lining. That’s great work that your are doing. I have thought about a separation, but I don’t know if he would go for it. During one of our conversations, he said he would rather we end it on good terms before we ended up hating each other. He had a pretty bad divorce once, so I understand where that is coming from. Unfortunately I’m to the point where I think we would be better as friends. I have a feeling we would treat each other better than we do now.

Marriage is hard work as we know. I certainly wish you the best and hope it turns out the way you want. Take care!