Hi Kerri, once again, it helps knowing I’m not alone. My child is close to the same age too and I believe we are both codependent as well. My counselor has shown me the difference between my codependent traits and being my true self. One time she asked what I was afraid of and I said I’m afraid if I continue to grow as a person, I’m afraid he and I will grow apart. I can’t see me progressing in a positive manner while staying in a negative sitution. I dont feel we share the same values either. I want to learn how to love and accept people for who they are and it’s challenging when your partner is the opposite. So you are right, we aren’t on the same page and I don’t see us growing together. Can I ask what it is that you are unhappy with? Just curious.