Oh Elsie! it is nice to know we are not alone. I am also new to this site, and came up on it to try and help myself deal with the same issues you describe. Great husband, great father. I am completely in love with him, and very attracted to him. Our relationship goes in cycles. Sometimes we are great and others not so much. I just would like for things to stay one way. He can be very loving and sweet, but then, he gets tired and seems to forget that we are supposed to be a couple. I try to give him his space, but then is like he does’t feel like coming back. The only way to get him to notice me again as something other that another body living in this house is for me to become distant, and then he realizes that something is wrong. Then we talk, we make love, and then go back to normal, until it happens again. I want this vicious cycle to end. I know I am the one to blame, since this is what I always do, and he knows the routine.

Anyways, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.