A similar situation happened to me back in 2010. I thought we had it all and then all of a sudden he breaks up and his friend comes to me and tells me “He said he never really loved you and that he was never happy” even though to me it seemed that it was all rainbows and skittles. Eventually I found out it was because he found interest in somebody else and he had just said that to get me to leave. However, this may not be exactly the situation with you. Sometimes people get coldfeet in a relationship and just need some time or you need to have a civilized (almost emotionless – i mean dont cry and beg or scream and yell) talk about it with him and be rational and try to be understanding like “why didnt you tell me this before? Im sorry… i didnt know i made you feel that way. But i really value our relationship”
I think sometimes the universe just throws us a curve ball, so we can learn something out of it. This guy i just finished telling you about? Well we ended up getting back together a month later because i found out i was pregnant and well… we stayed together for 2.5 more years until it got really bad and he kept doing the same thing. Repeating himself. Every four months he lost interest in me. Eventually I had enough and left him. Mind you, i had been with him 5 years and i loved him, we lived together and had kid, we spent almost everyday together. It HURT leaving him but he was hurting me and making me go nuts – i had no stability and it kept getting worse… sooo…. a human can only handle so much. I cut my losses and let him do what he pleased. Now im with a new guy and he is freaking amazing AND (ironically) he is a buddhist born in Cambodia lives in USA now. I recall telling my mom a year prior to meeting my current love “MAN i wish i could marry a buddhist…he wouldn’t make me so mad!” hahah and here i am….with a Buddhist.
Anyhow, I guess what im saying is that its best to detach yourself… I know your attached and i know it hurts but honestly there may be better out there for you or you may learn something before coming back to him. But whatever you do, approach everything with understanding and compassion.
*EDIT I think right now, you should really focus on things that make you happy. Enlighten yourself, don’t expect others to bring you happiness. Be the source of your own happiness.
(I wish i could write more but i have to leave!)
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