Hi Inky,

My SO is not a bad guy at all, and I do not believe he would get jealous if I gained more confidence. He wants me to be happy. He wants me to be able to take my shirt off at the beach and not worry about what others think of me. He just wants me to be comfortable in my own skin and it kills him to constantly hear me cut myself down or compare myself to other girls. He is very supportive and just wants me to be confident and not let all these things constantly affect me.

I can see how it is hard to love someone like me. Who wants to hear their partner hate them self all the time? I wouldn’t, but I am lucky enough that my SO is confident. He’s not playing games and he’s not cutting me down, but maybe I was not as explanatory in my previous post. I just need to learn to love myself and that’s the main issue. I don’t know how to look at a pretty girl and not think, “Why am I not as skinny/pretty/lovable as she?” I base my self worth completely on how I look and it hinders me from enjoying my life. Will self help books and e-courses really change the way I think?