Yes you can forgive yourself. I hope that things may work out still with the guy, now that you were honest and told him the truth. I too have made these mistakes in the (not too distant) past, and I am not proud of what I did. And I really sometimes still hate myself deeply for being stupid and not loving myself or my partner enough to refrain from some cheap thrill. And I’ve been told some horrible things about myself since it happened, and decided I don’t want to be those things (heartless, hurtful, evil), even though I made the mistake, it is not who I truly believe I am. I’m a deeply insecure person, and have learnt now that I need to work on this to be able to be in a stable relationship without self-sabotage and hurting others. Take this as a lesson and learn from it.

So I am going to start back at basics, invest time into being who I need to be to be a better human being and not hurt others with my actions and have self-respect and respect for those in my life who choose to love me. You need to love yourself at the end of the day cos sometimes that is the only person we have, and that is okay. You are lovable, worthy and everyone makes mistakes. Don’t let this mistake define who you are, learn from it and don’t make the same mistake again. Good luck!