HI Luis,
I remember many years ago I was feeling very down. I was sitting on my back door step looking out into my garden, and I had one of those light bulb moments. I thought, here I am sitting here, feeling down, thinking about all the bad things in my life that I’m not happy about. I thought, I can choose, right now, to just not be this way anymore. I can choose, right now, to think more often about happier things, and not concentrate on the bad things. I can choose, right this moment, to make today different for myself….and so I did. I chose to do it in a different way firstly by not dwelling on the things that made me feel sad and bad. I learnt that helping other people in different little ways gave me a really good boost too. I took the word “should” out of my vocabulary (coz it made me feel bad) and inserted the words “I’d like to” instead……I “should” have done whatever, changes to “I’d like to” have done whatever. So changing the words helped me to feel not so bad about myself. Start taking notice of those inner tape recordings and replace the negative ones with something that doesn’t make you feel so bad. I found that once I started working on myself, and started to like myself more, other people liked me more too. So my advice to you would be to get your inner self sorted first, and then the good stuff will automatically follow. And don’t forget, when you are down in the dumps, that can be a normal thing, it can happen to all of us, and it is usually only temporary. If it goes on for longer than 3-4 weeks talk to your therapist and discuss some more ways to get out of the negative mental loop. (It can often be as simple as retraining your brain.) Good Luck Luis.