As someone who has experienced abuse and moved past it, I am concerned, especially given that you have a child. It’s great that you are going into therapy, it’s a must in such a situation. It is unrealistic for him to expect you to revert to a past relationship; you are right to be cautious. You are not responsible for anyone’s feelings or actions but your own. Do not try to fix him; you are not his therapist. Any further physical abuse should send you on your way; remember, it could be your child; at the least, you don’t need her growing up in that environment. Not that emotional/mental abuse is OK, it’s just harder to quantify. Keep in touch with those who will keep you grounded and honest; don’t allow yourself to be isolated.