Well, the best advice I can give you is to sit down and talk about your feelings with this persons. That’s the problem sometimes, lack of communication, then that’s where assumptions comes along which leads to mis-understandings. I love someone who is so afraid of coming out of the closet, that I paid a heavy price for that. Lies after lies after lies. According to the so called professional counselors & psychologists who are both friends and non-friends, have all said that I have been in love with a sociopath and a woman who has split personalities. They are convinced she is also bi-polar. That was really painful to hear so I stopped going to see a counselor until I sit down with my so called ex and discuss with her what really happened here. The best advice like I said is to sit down and talk to your ex or that you both go see a counselor together to get the results and peace that you need in order to move forward.