Hi Yue and Rock Banana,

Thank you for taking time to read my long post and typing replies 🙂

Yue, you are right..I am a person who is more conservative, I have never thought of that, and yes, I definitely wouldn’t want to be the driver for every intimate step of the relationship. Tbh for the very first few times I went out with guy A, I feel like I am the “guy”, not too sure if the traditional gender roles is too rooted in my mind either…For example, during the very first few times we head out, there was once when we reached a foodplace and there are no seats, and we need to asked if other diners are willing to share a table with us. And he just stood there and “gave” me the job to ask around. not too sure if I am being too sensitive on this point, but I guess the person I am looking for is someone more proactive than this..

And Rock Banana, you have totally capture my thoughts, sometimes when I thought of entertaining the other guy, I feel like as if I owed guy A, I couldn’t say what (since we never make any commitments either), just that strange feeling. You’re right, probably he just sees me as a close friend. And yes, I am currently more incline with guy B because the uncertainty with A is kind of draining.

From both your advice, I guess what I would do now is to take it easy and perhaps chat up with guy B. Things were a bit awkward when I “rejected” the first date, I guess I just need more time to be ready. Let time decide if we are really suitable, and it doesn’t hurt to make one more friend at the end of the day. As for guy A, I think I will just keep him as a friend and draw up my boundaries when necessary.

🙂 Az