Hi! You know that this is abusive behavior, and I think you know what you have to do, but are afraid to take the next step.
People can change, but it takes time. Are you willing to take that time, and risk a worst-case scenario?
Is he worth you putting your safety on the line to help him? From what you’ve said, I’m not convinced that he is.
Sometimes people fall into a habit where they think that what they say or do is said or done jokingly, or that it’s not that big of a deal, but they don’t realize how it affects other people.
It’s the way their minds work.
For some reason, your boyfriend thinks all of these things that he’s doing is acceptable, and they’re not. Imagine how long it will take for him to completely re-learn how to interact with someone.
Benefit of the doubt is a good policy, but you have to draw the line somewhere. I don’t think you can help him, and I think (I know you have no reason to listen to me, but think about it) you should consider leaving before it’s too late.
http://www.cnn.com/2014/11/08/living/inside-batterers-mind/
Peace 🙂