Nobody is ever ‘perfect’ for us. It sounds like it’s time for you to figure out what your priorities are and what you want in a relationship. It’s not so much that you ‘deserve’ financial stability, but that it’s important to you.

Your choices are A) leave your boyfriend because he’s not good with money and financial stability is more important to you than the relationship, B) stay with him and maybe try to work with him around learning better money-handling responsibilities or getting a job, etc (if he gets a job, maybe you can take on the money-handling tasks while he takes on something in the relationship that he’s better at than you are?) or C) stay, do nothing, and continue to get resentful and angry, in which case your relationship will eventually end painfully.

If you’re a good match in every other way, maybe there’s some way to more actively support him in getting work and/or learning better skills. It seems to me that, if you really are a good match in all these other ways, it might be worth trying some other tacks before you end it. It’s not that often that we find someone that is a good match.

On the other hand, if financial stability is one of your top priorities, and he’s not going to be able to provide that to your satisfaction, it might simply mean that you need to find a partner who brings more financial resources to the table. There’s no shame in wanting that. People break up for lots of reasons, who love one another and are good together in many ways.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

And I don’t agree that you’re ‘using’ him any more than any of us ‘use’ our partners and friends to help get our needs met. Your desire to be financially secure is totally valid.