Elle, your words again have reassured me that I am doing a good thing. I do want to pursue a love with someone who is equally as interested and committed to the relationship so it’s really all on his side at this point. I’m hoping that by being optimistic to all future options will leave me okay no matter the outcome! It is kind of hard for me given my goal-oriented sort of outlook on life, but that sort of mindset is better geared for specific things like getting an A or getting a promotion, not the “goal” of changing the emotions of another person! Wishing you the best <3

Christopher, thank you for popping by. You’ve reminded me that I do need to hold my relationships to higher standards. I do deserve nothing less than someone who wants to be in a relationship with me. Have a good day!

loneand, I’m also glad that I am not alone in this! I’m so sorry about your situation as well… things really do get tough with breakups, and depression definitely pushes the frustration and sadness even further. But what matters is not how hard it is, but how we learn how to deal with it. And so life is definitely going to get better once we realize how to heal ourselves. I’ve been doing things like going on walks (haha… the old “go connect with nature” thing actually does help despite its corniness!), making sure I am around/talk to people who understand my situation and remain positive, and making sure I stay balanced – like remaining driven to my academic/career/personal goals, while making sure I don’t let anxiety build up.

Being with someone who refuses to want you is not a good situation. It tears you down and prevents you, in turn, from being the best partner to them, and being the best person you can be. So by letting him go, I am concentrating on being a good friend, sister, and daughter, and learning how to better support those who ARE receptive to my love. I figure that that way, it’s a win-win: if I do have the opportunity of reconnecting with my ex in the future, I’ll be better equipped to be a good friend or partner, and if I don’t, then I still have the bonds I’ve made with others plus being an overall more understanding and supportive person!

If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here. I always find it so much better to talk to someone else about things! Thanks for commenting <3