Thank you – I think both of you have summed up exactly how I’m feeling about things, which is reassuring. I agree, having left the situation, I completely understand why things happened the way they did. I have no hard feelings towards her at all and actually think having gone through it has given me a greater appreciation of why I wanted to move overseas. I also agree that what we need to do now (if we get the chance) is try and have a normal relationship.

I was also thinking that we live separately in the new city, date for a while and then assuming that goes well we can think about moving in together and then if that goes well think about marriage…we went straight from step 1 to step 100 and that was never going to work.