Just read this after you replied to my post! Yes, I see the similarities!
I can completely understand the stress that comes with the long-distance “leap”- but as you advised me, it IS worth trying…love is always worth it.
I like the idea of starting your life together in a neutral city- this has also been discussed with my partner as a possibility.
I think the benefit of that is that it eliminates the possibility of one partner resenting the other for taking them away from their foundation.
Good luck to you and keep us posted!