The Thinker,

The option to wait isn’t allowed because you’re ready? What about her thoughts, feelings and opinions? It may be a language thing. 🙂 If she’s fearful, consider setting aside your strong opinions on what matters and listen to her side of things. It will be good practice for the caring attention that you’ll need to be a dad.

Have you considered couple’s counselling? The question “should I have a baby or leave my wife?” says to me that there are perhaps some issues you would do well to look at more closely before trying to answer that.

With warmth,
Matt