Dear Ecotone:

I don’t feel that I have a solution or solutions for you. A sidenote: I used to think that I had solutions for others… ha ha- a delusion of mine. I have one sentence that went through my mind spontaneously as I read your post- “… grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…” The first part of the Serenity Prayer. Accept the things i cannot change right now. Maybe later… but right now. Another idea that occured to me in connection to this: what is the fastest way to get out of a prison cell (metaphorically, if not a literal prison cell)? To stop wishing to get out. To stop wishing for a change… by fully accepting the way things are. Does any of this mean anything to you?

Wishing you well:
anita