Dear Korrasamus:
I read your original post again and your added post. I find your post very interesting. In the original post your question at the end is: “I’m just curious if anyone else has had similar experiences of this, whether you got back together again months or years down the line or if you each found someone else– did you regret losing them? Are happier now? I’m just curious.”

It seems to me that what you need is others to tell you stories of separation and re-uniting love stories so that you feel comforted. I feel empathy for you. You wrote that you suffer from abandonment issues. The separation from the man you are talking about is causing you great distress, isn’t it? You are afraid of feeling alone and you want the comfort of imagining a re-uniting, a together-again with this fellow. This is understandable. I can very much relate.

But I have no such story to tell you. I don’t have what I believe that you want; what I believe that you need. What I do have, because i am not inside your story, is an outside perspective, a wider perspective. I know I can see the forest right now better than you can- not because I am more intelligent than you are, or older or any such thing but simply because I am not emotionally invested in that man the way you are. Our need emotions create blind spots in our vision, make us not see what is right there, make us focus on this or that tree or this or that branch of one tree and not see the whole tree or the whole forest.

It has taken and is taking me a lot of time to see the forest. Let me know if, IF you want more of MY input on what is easily there to be seen by the non-invested reader, see if you can widen your perspective, not necessarily to agree with my input but to consider possible validity in your mind.

Take care:
anita