Dear Hotfuzz:
I read your post carefully, scanning for places where she may have disrespected or abused you and found none. It seems to me like you used each other- and that is what people do and should be doing all the time, meaning we are creatures of self interest like all living things are biologically designed to do. As long as using the other is a win-win situation- that is okay in my book. At first the situation with her was a win-win. Then you wanted more. She honestly told you she was not ready for more. At that point you had the choice to withdraw or pursue her further. You chose the latter. You asked her to decide when she came back from England. She found a new boyfriend while in England so she was okay with the time frame. You also had a new job and was less available for at least instant messaging or phone contact (emails were possible). You feel hurt because you hoped for more and you are left without what you hoped for. It is a valid feeling but it seems to me that your hurt feeling and maybe angry feelings do not indicate disrespect or abuse on her part. What do you think?

Take Care:
anita