Dear katherine:
This makes me wonder. I self reflect a lot and i am curious about other people and what make them tic. From your short description of your fiance i acn guess all kinds of things but they will be only guesses. I am sure you know, as one who reflects, that he is very, very unlikely to change. Why would he? The way he is – is working for him. Did you or are you expecting him to change? If you examine yourself deeply, on some deep level, did you or do you expect him to change? Or even hope he will?

If you do, what if he does not change (99.999% he does not, my estimation)- will you be able to live with him? Will you want to live with him?

If you need a reflecting man in your life, that kind of emotional connection, WHY will you compromise with one who is not?

I cannot go on with my reply without knowing the answers to these.

take care:
anita