Dear Toggles:
First thing on my mind: he said he wants to have children with you- can you imagine him drinking and … doing what to a defenseless child? You can leave him to Australia, but an innoncent defenseless, needy child? Do you imagine the irresponsibility of having a child with a man who can not account to his behavior, who “can’t handle (his) emotions” by his own account?

Second, regarding your question: is the truth in his sobriety or his drink? I like the question; it is making me think…how about this effort to answer it: the truth is in BOTH. The truth is not in this OR that but in both. If you place the truth in his sobriety- what do you call the reality of his drinking? A bad dream? No, it is also reality. What do you think?

anita