Dear taymor:
And thank you for your kind words. It is a pleasure reading your posts, full of intelligence and insight! A few things that come to my mind: you wrote ‘freedom’ with the quotation marks, a word he used as a reason to the separation, wasn’t it? Freedom from what? Did he say? Freedom from what do you figure? I assume it is freedom from DISTRESS. He was distressed in the last six months and needed freedom from that distress.

You wrote: “the heaviest weight on my heart is learning how to not feel like I was not enough for him.” My thought is that … and I am going back to the paragraph above- if his motivation was to relieve his own distress then it did not have much to do with you. It was a self interest motivation, get rid of distress in his mind. What caused that distress for six months has a lot to do most likely with factors in his psyche and his family of origin that way PRE-date your relationship with him.

How are you doing with your pain and feelings today? I hope you are doing well.
anita